Your Presence And Finding Your Place Of Solitude

Adulting tip 101: Everyone should learn to enjoy their own presence and time alone. Finding joy in your own presence is how you center your spirit to obtain peace and clarity. It’s how you get to know yourself on a deeper level. Time alone is a great opportunity to recharge, refocus, get organized, rest, or talk to God.

When you become comfortable in your own presence you’re less likely to choose relationships out loneliness or tolerate the drama of others. When you become comfortable in your own presence, you’ll guard your peace and sanity with extra care. I like to call this place solitude, which should not be confused with isolation. Once you find your place of solitude, protect it at all cost. When you feel stressed or overwhelmed, it’s your place of solitude that will give you the push you need to make it through.

Here you’re able to explore more intimate parts of yourself that are usually overshadowed when around others. Everyone has two sides to them— the side that’s present when interacting with others and the side that feels free when alone and unbothered. Here you don’t need to dress up or put a mask on because you’re able to be yourself authentically. Constantly being around people can sometimes be draining and create distractions. Too much interaction leads to overstimulation which leads to stagnation.

Now let’s talk about loneliness, which at its’ core is a deep internal feeling of lack or scarcity in one more areas of your life. You’re lonely because you feel like you’re missing out on love, companionship, accomplishments, happiness, or satisfaction with oneself. Loneliness is something that no one else can fix except the person who’s feeling it because it comes from within. Loneliness is a dark feeling that absolutely steals your joy every time. It makes it hard for you to connect with others by keeping you distant to the world around you. Loneliness makes you think what you have isn’t good enough and will never be good enough.

Learn to be comfortable in your own presence before isolation creeps in and steals your joy. Make a list of everything you have to be grateful for and watch how quickly it brightens your mood. Solitude is your goal and being alone is okay. Isolation is what you want to avoid because everyone needs to experience love and companionship at some level. Find your balance.