I’m Not For Everyone And That’s Okay

As you get older and evolve into adulthood it’s sooo necessary to find a healthy balance between two things: finding a community of people you can belong to yet realizing you aren’t for everyone and everyone isn’t for you. What I mean by this is learning who’s good for you and who is not. Surround yourself with people you can vibe with instead of forcing yourself into surroundings that make you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, and inferior. Surround yourself with love, good energy, and people you can rely on.

Once you learn how to be confident in yourself, you won’t feel the need to bend over backwards for the approval of others nor change yourself so people will like you more. Honor yourself and your needs, even if that means you have to be alone. You dont have to force fake interactions, conversations, and relationships. You aren’t for everyone and everyone isn’t for you… and that’s okay. Don’t feel bad for needing to end a relationship that no longer fits your current level of existence.

Respect and accept those differences between you and the next person. Accept what it is. Accept what isn’t. Everyone is not going to be for you no matter how much you wish they were. You can’t force chemistry or destiny. You can’t force your mentality onto someone else. You can’t force alikeness. You can’t force loyalty, honesty, or transparency. You can’t change anyone and you can’t force anyone to be compatible with you. Save your time, energy and friendship for people who actually deserve it. If folks don’t like you then oh well, especially if you’ve been nothing but solid from the very beginning.

Confidently stand in your own lane and attract those who are meant to be a part of your life. Sure enough you’ll find the right circle of people who will add to your life, who will support you without having to ask for it, who will continually show up for you, inspire you and love you. When you carry a gift with you, everyone will want in on that gift but few will be there to help you perfect that gift, and grow that gift. Very few will be able to hold onto to you because the responsibility is greater than what they could handle. When someone shows you that they aren’t for you, you better believe it.

So shout to the top of your lungs, you’re not for everyone and that’s okay. Be stingy with your presence because it’s very valuable.