Turn Your Pain Into Purpose

Oftentimes, pain and heartache will change the lense in which we view the world. It will change your personality, the encounters you have with people and the way we connect with them, the way you deal with stress and handle confrontation. Pain has the potential to kill your spirit if you let it. Sometimes you aren’t able to recognize the impact of pain until after the fact. Today I want to talk with you about how to handle the pain you’ve experienced and why you should begin the healing process.

First comes acknowledgment. This means acknowledge your pain instead of acting like it doesn’t exist. It means stop hiding your emotions and get comfortable being vulnerable with yourself. Yes it’s easier to act like the pain you’re experiencing doesn’t exist, but that just delays your healing and purpose. Eventually those feelings will come back when you least expect it and when they do, it’s going to come at you fast and heavy. Actively choose the path to healing before it’s too late and you lose control. Your pain doesn’t need to outshine your presence.

Take the time to understand your emotions, and what triggered them. Give your emotions a name to help you understand what they are. Ask yourself the following questions: What are you going to do with your pain? How will you use it to help out the next person? Do you have a testimony to share? Is there someone you know going through the same thing you are? Is someone else’s emotional breakthrough tied to your pain? These questions are here to guide you if you aren’t sure where to begin.

We’ve all been hurt at one point or another in life. Everyone deals with their pain differently. Something that may work for you may not work for me, but it’s important to figure out how to release your pain in a healthy way. Adopt healthy coping skills that aren’t detrimental to your wellbeing and progress. Use your pain for something good instead of allowing it to take over, change you for the worse, or make you jaded.

One important reminder when processing your pain is to not misplace your emotions. By this I mean projecting your pain onto those around you. Check yourself and your emotional intelligence, build your awareness to understand your habits and behaviors. Use those resources at your hand to guide you through this process. There’s beauty in your scars and strength in your weakness. There’s another version of you waiting to be created on the other side of your pain. Release all destructive and toxic thinking, free yourself.