Is Your Identity Wrapped In Misfortune Or Excuses?

Have you ever met someone who’s identity seemed to be wrapped in nothing but drama, misfortune, and excuses? Whenever you talk to them it’s just one complaint after the next, one sad story after another. When you leave their presence your spirit just feels heavy. It seems like they just want to play the victim and want people to feel bad them. I’ve realized everyone who fits into this category lacks accountability. They blame any and everyone instead of looking within themselves. But at some point you have to take ownership for your poor decisions and lack of personal accountability. It’s not bad luck or misfortune, it’s you. You are the problem.

Some people cry wolf because they love to always have an excuse. It makes them feel better about their lack of success and this way they're never held accountable for their mishaps. Here, they never have to do the hard work, or get uncomfortable chasing their dreams. They never have to face rejection or deal with disappointments because after all, it’s not their fault right? How easy is it to lie to yourself and paint a picture that doesn’t really exist. But what’s easy isn’t always what’s best.

People who lack accountability and never level up, are the same ones still doing the same thing they were years ago. They’re the same ones who lack stability and order. They surround themselves with people who are just like them, not going anywhere, and stuck on nothing. When you’re caught in this cycle it may seem harmless until you realize how much time you let pass you by.

I know firsthand chasing your dreams can be difficult with its’ many ebbs and flows. Change can be scary, and getting out of your comfort zone is hard. Taking accountability for failure is even more difficult because it requires a level of transparency that many of us haven’t reached. But if you want to be successful in life then you have to take the risks. Like the saying goes, you have to do what you’ve never done to get where you’ve never been. The only way to learn is through trial and error. Let experience be your teacher.

It’s time you accepted that you really don’t have a series of unfortunate events unfolding in your life because it was just the old you making bad decisions. It’s time you accepted the new you that’s on the way, and this new you has a series of fortunate events. This new you is in alignment with self. Identify this new you that you wish to see thrive. The new you makes decisions that are best for self and works through the consequences of each decision before making a move. The new you makes sacrifices for your future instead of hindering your future for the sake of comfort.

You and misfortune don’t belong together. You and excuses don’t belong together.