When Your Body Harbors Emotions, Speak Up For Yourself
Did you know the human body literally holds emotions, both good and bad? Did you know that when you feel emotional pain it can manifest itself into real physical pain within the body? Which can then become so far imbedded into your DNA that when you have children, it can carry down to their DNA as well. Mind blowing right? So it really is true that what you don’t deal with, your children will have to deal with too.
Let’s say you tend to feel down most of the time, you’re depressed and an emotional wreck. Suddenly your neck is just aching non-stop, or your stomach starts hurting more frequently. Suddenly the cramps become unbearable, but you aren’t sure why. Emotionally you may feel anxious, but physically you may feel a constant flutter in your chest. You may even be mentally exhausted, but physically you have a headache. That’s your emotions trying to find its’ way through the body. Your emotions want to be expressed. Your emotions need an outlet.
With that being said I want to encourage you to acknowledge, process and address your feelings. Become more in tune with your body and its’ health. This way you are not harboring any sort of pain, guilt, depression, and so forth in your body. I like to call this speaking up for yourself. Speak up for yourself, acknowledge what you need and how you feel. No one can read your mind, know your expectations or standards if you don’t speak up for yourself. When you let people run all over you, or talk to you any sort of way— you’re showing them that you don’t value yourself. You’re showing them that you don’t possess the confidence, or knowledge to know what is and is not acceptable.
If someone upset you, I believe in conflict resolution, but in an effective way. You don’t have to yell, scream, cuss, or break things. You do however need to effectively communicate how you’re feeling. It’s easy to say you’re upset, but try going a little deeper next time to really figure out why. It’s easy to name your emotions, but do you understand them? The next time you decide to hold something in, remember the body harbors emotions, both good and bad.