Why You Need To Address Your Childhood Traumas
Carrying your childhood traumas into adulthood is a major red flag when it comes to building healthy relationships. It can effect your dating life, business partnerships, and even the children you raise. It can come out in ways you didn’t even expect such as your attitude and mannerisms. There’s no doubt that someone projecting their own problems onto you can put a strain on the relationship and create a havoc of emotions that aren’t beneficial to anyone. This is why it’s best to address those old wounds so they can finally heal.
You ever had a conversation with someone and no more than 10 minutes in, you could pick up that something isn’t right and it’s times to abort mission immediately? It’s easy to spot when someone else is damaged, but not so much when the shoe is on the other foot. Most people don’t want to be transparent and vulnerable with themselves. They hide those ugly parts of themselves when they look into the mirror, not realizing it’s as noticeable as wearing a clown mask.
When you don’t deal with your childhood traumas, the people you come into contact with aren’t able to know the real you because they are stuck dealing with who you were 20 years ago. They don’t get to see your growth, nor connect with who you are at your core because the pain you’re carrying around is outshining your presence. Having children without dealing with your childhood trauma means you are creating your own generational curse to pass down to them. You plant the seeds of chaos and emotional manipulation into their lives.
No one wants to deal with grown adults who haven’t dealt with their own personal demons. More importantly why do you still have the mindset of a 13 year old when physically you’re 32? As a child maybe you didn’t know what to do with those emotions you were feeling, let alone how to express them. Maybe you even felt like a loner, but as an adult you have plenty of resources at your disposal to use. As an adult you have power and are in control of how you feel. As an adult you have the ability to say hey this isn’t working for me, or I don’t like the way so and so makes me feel. You have the ability to walk away. As an adult you make choices for yourself.
Childhood traumas in adulthood are like oil and water, the two just don’t mix no matter how much stirring you do. Don’t let your past get so far out of control that it causes you to play the toxic role in someone else’s life. We all know that hurt people hurt people, but hurt people also self-sabotage. Seek the therapy you need, get right with spirit and heal your wounded self. Free yourself from the strongholds of your past and your childhood.